Having a strong and healthy relationship that lasts over years isn’t something that comes easy. It takes effort and work to keep your relationship healthy. Because at some point the overwhelming feeling of being head over heels in love we had at the beginning disappears, we get lazy in our relationship, lose our patience and thoughtfulness and the general effort we once made for our partner gets put on the back burner. We assume that he knows exactly what we want without telling him and get disappointed when that’s not the case.
“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.”
– Alain de Botton
There are ways to not let the day-to-day consume you and numb you for being receptive for your partner’s needs and desires. How he feels and if he needs you. Ways to help you stay strong and happy as a couple.
5 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Healthy:
Communication is key. We don’t always have to agree on everything, but we should respect and understand the partner’s opinions. Be open and honest with each other in our communications at all times. Listen to what our partner has to say. And show him that we are interested in his thoughts. Practice active listening skills, don’t interrupt one another and tell ourselves how we really feel, even it it makes one feel awkward. Don’t hold grudges after an argument and try not to go to bed before making up.
Maintaining a positive relationship means respecting our partner’s feelings, character, heart and trust. Respect comes in many forms and can be broken down by many things. We should never call our partner names, talk bad about him in front of others or threaten to leave the relationship when things get bumpy.
STAY IN TOUCH
Life is busy and can be stressful. Making an effort of staying in touch during such a busy day shows that we are in each other’s corner and we make our better half a priority. It also relieves stress and makes us feel better about the workload still ahead of us.
It might seem insignificant, but letting our man e.g. know that his dry-walling skills are off the chart makes him happy and feel good about himself, it will even make him put in more effort and not stress about the unpleasant job. And which lady doesn’t feel good about herself when her partner tells her how amazing she looks.
Say those 3 little words regularly and mean them. Show your affection. A kiss and a hug can go a long way. It’s important to touch and feel close. Smell your partner and tell him how good he makes you feel. And get down to business. It’s the most normal thing keeping a healthy and strong relationship alive and keeping you close to the one you chose to spend your life with.
Spending quality time with each other is just as important as scheduling me-time. Everyone needs to zone out at some point and it is crucial to spend some time alone, all by yourself. And never forget to laugh together, it helps pull you out of a funk.
I am Chrissy – the one behind The Brave Wanderer. Wife to my best friend and soulmate, married for 14 years and a couple for almost 24. Mother to a teenage daughter and to our Greek pup, Kyra and kitty, Miley, whom we both adopted. Living in the beautiful countryside of southern Germany with a place in my heart reserved for America, where I have spent a little over 7 years of my life and hope to return to one day. I have been blogging for 7 years, I love knitting and going to the movies. Drinking coffee, Netflix and a nice skein of yarn are things that make me happy.
Thank you so much for having me over here on your beautiful blog! I hope your readers enjoyed my post! I wish you and your soon-to-be husband all the best of luck for your future together! xxx