Confidence, self-love, self-esteem, and imperfections. What do all of these words have in common? These 4 words are easily four of the hardest things women struggle with. Each woman has their own story. A story as to why she struggles with these four words. Women don’t carry their stories across their foreheads so we shouldn’t judge her, we should build her up. Today’s post is all about confidence. Keep reading to find 4 ways to rock confidence because you can girlfriend, you can rock it!
For years I struggled with and still sometimes struggle with confidence. In the later years of elementary school (kindergarten through 4th grade) I had a massive growth spurt which resulted in me being the tallest person in my grade. Not only was I the tallest kid in the class, I was also extremely athletic resulting in me being “one of the boys”. In gym class, I was always the first girl picked on the team (and most times over the boys). So at a young age, I embraced the fact that I was “one of the guys”. I loved playing sports and showig I wasn’t a “girly-girl”. I took pride in the fact that I was the “son” he never had.
All of this was fine and dandy until late in junior high school when all the boys in school started thinking girls were cute and attractive and didn’t have “cooties”. While their views on girls changed, their views on me didn’t, I was still “one of the boys”. Through these years I hunched over to be shorter, I tried to be like the popular girls, and I changed who I was just so I could get attention. From junior high through college, I struggled with being enough. Toward the end of my freshman year of college, I stopped caring about what other people think of me. I became me and I keep growing as a person each year. Sure, I still struggle with confidence but I’m nowhere near that shy, timid, doubtful girl I once was and here’s how I did it.
How To Rock Confidence:
Mind Over Matter//
To be confident, you have to think confidently. Before you can even begin to rock your confidence, you must have the conversation with yourself. Our minds are the hardest things to escape because it is constantly running. Not only is it constantly running but we live in a society that is filling our heads with bullshit that we aren’t good enough. (sorry for the language, mom). We are told that 0 is a size and that if you aren’t a certain height or weight that you’re not good enough. In addition to our measurements, women have been taught that certain markings and features are not pretty and that we should hide cover them up with makeup.
As if reading and seeing this on TV, in movies, on social media, and covers of magazines isn’t enough, women are turning against other women to bash them in. I’ve seen girls walk by other girls and laugh as they walk by. When this happens, we have to train our minds to turn off. We have to focus on the fact that we love ourselves and nobody can change that.
Be You and Only You//
Being unique is the best trait anybody could have. It’s what sets us apart from all of the other humans on Earth. Life would be so dull and uninteresting if we were like each other. While it’s okay to look up to someone and aspire to be like them, it’s not okay to change yourself to be them. Embrace your quirks, it really is okay. When you embrace who you are supposed to be you will conquer the world. Your best features are your quirks, I fully believe that.
I love being myself and embracing the fact that I’m crazy (not in a psycho way but a silly way). Goofing off, making weird noises, saying the silliest things, and breaking our into song when someone says a world that makes me think of a specific sound are things I love to do. I don’t care if someone thinks I’m weird for those traits. Those traits make me unique. Those traits make me happy. That’s all that matters.
Dress The Part//
In order to rock confidence, dressing the part should be high on the list. What clothes make you feel good about yourself? Does a simple jeans, t-shirt, and sneaks make you feel good? Then rock that outfit, girl! Do you love throwing on a cute dress, heels, and perfecting your hair and makeup? You do you! Find whatever outfit that’s going to be your holy grail look to help you achieve maximum confidence and wear it! Wear that outfit when you are feeling down, wear it when you are happy, wear it and rock that confidence!
For me, there’s nothing like the simplest outfits to make me feel like I can take on the world. Then there are some days where I throw on a dress, make sure my makeup is on fleek (do people still say that?), style my hair in my go-to look and rock it.
Fake It ‘Til You Make It//
When all else fails, pretend your confident. Everyone has bad days that makes them not want to get out of bed. If only we could have a book full of ‘not feeling’ coupon where we have an excuse to stay in bed and have a pity party. Unfortunately, that is not how life works. So the next time you are having a bad day, remember this:
“You are beautiful!”
“Positive thoughts create positive things.”
“Overthinking will lead to sadness.”
“I’m doing my best.”
“I am strong and beautiful. I am enough.”
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