Is There the “Right Time” To Get Married? Getting married is definitely a HUGE step in each couple’s life. I always found it funny how (most of the time) she wants to get married, but he had to propose. Am I the only one who thinks that this is not the only option?
Anyway, when you’re in high school (or somewhere around there) the society starts to brain wash you:
- Where will you go to Uni?
- You must get a job in a big company after you graduate.
- Why don’t you have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?
- You got one. Good. When you’ll get married?
- You should be having kids by now…
… and the list would be endless. There are certain unwritten “rules” that the society kind of makes us follow. If we don’t follow that path, we won’t fit into society, we will be different, weird or rebels.
One of my favourite “rule” is “you should be married and have kids by now”. And here’s why I absolutely hate it:
- Because most of the people around me are getting married doesn’t mean I also have to do the same. Also, children come from different generation, not like their parents. It does not have to be like it was for your parents.
- Getting married is not a “time to have kids” one way ticket. If I get married it doesn’t mean I want kids. Or that I want them right away.
According to Time Magazine, the age you get married it can predict your chances of lasting as a couple. The younger you get married, the higher chances you’ll get divorced in the first five years or marriage. The older you get married… you guested it, chances of getting a divorce drops down.
Also, the same article, indicates that “people should get married between the ages of 28 and 32” if they want to enjoy a happy married life. I think that this segment is actually the maturity phase in each and every one of us lives. By age of 28 most of us had a couple of different jobs, most probably by now a nice career has been built. Having the professional needs satisfied, allows us to grow more on the emotional side, I guess. We grow up, we learn what responsibility truly is and we get more open-minded, but also committed to our relationships.
Truly deep down, even though I feel the society’s pressure myself, I don’t believe there is a right time to get married. Of course, biologically speaking, there is a right time to get married to have kids. But this chat is not about that. My parents were younger than me when they had me. They’re not divorced and I am not a convicted criminal or something like that.
I think that the most important thing is to not let the society dictate you how you should life your life. You will end in depression if you do. And I very much believe that you should marry your best friend. If your partner is also your best friend, marry him or her.
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